1. June 2026
Grief and Loss – What Can I Say?
Hello and welcome to The Counselling Room
Grief and loss can impact both our emotional and physical wellbeing in ways that are often misunderstood. Many people try to continue with daily life, routines, work, and responsibilities while internally struggling with exhaustion, distress, and overwhelm. Over time, masking thoughts and feelings can begin to affect both mental and physical health.
Clients experiencing grief often describe symptoms such as insomnia, loss of appetite, headaches, nausea, palpitations, emotional numbness, anger, withdrawal, difficulty concentrating, or sudden bursts of emotion. Grief can feel unpredictable, isolating, and difficult to explain to others.
One of the most common themes discussed in the counselling room is the pressure people feel from others to “move on” or return to normality within an unspoken timeframe. Clients often speak about how support can fade quickly after the initial loss, leaving them feeling alone in their experience. Well-meaning advice, opinions, clichés, or comparisons can unintentionally make a griever feel unheard or judged.
Grief is personal and unique. There is no correct timeline, no right reaction, and no single way to process loss. Some people openly express emotion, while others withdraw or internalise their feelings. Some find comfort in memories, rituals, or conversation, while others need quiet reflection and time.
Counselling can offer a safe, independent space where grief can be explored without judgment, pressure, or expectation. Clients often say that simply being heard and accepted, without advice or timelines, can help them begin to process what they are experiencing at their own pace.
Sometimes people worry they do not know the “right” thing to say to someone grieving. Clients have reflected that honesty and presence are often more meaningful than perfect words. A simple acknowledgement such as “I’m sorry for your loss” or “I’m not sure what to say, but I’m here” can feel supportive and genuine.
Grief does not disappear because time passes. Instead, many people describe gradually learning how to move forwards while continuing to carry memories, love, sadness, and connection with them.